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Rising from the Ashes: Building Resilience to Heal Trauma healing trauma pheonix rising resilience Dec 20, 2024

The white on the ceiling is stark and cutting and makes the back of my eyes hurt as I lay here on the couch.  This is day 15 of chronic channel surfing in avoidance of things...

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Slapping at the Surface growing forward resilience self acceptance trauma your healing journey Nov 29, 2024

The edge of the pool is cold and harsh and we stand in a line watching one of our instructors thrash around in the water as if he was drowning.  I am 11 years old and today I am on the final...

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The Vow & Other Tales of Healing and Hope courage growing forward resilience self acceptance self love the dance of growth Sep 10, 2024

"Love yourself first because that is who you will be spending the rest of your life with."

 

 I am sitting on my bed with cloths all around me. We are getting ready to head out to...

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Keep Calm and Swim On: Resilience Techniques for the Win changing behaviors courage growing forward healing resilience understanding resilience your healing journey Sep 10, 2024

"I visualize to the point that I know exactly what I want to do: dive, glide, stroke, flip, reach the wall, hit the split time to the hundredth, than swim back and forth as many times as I need to...

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The Act of Growing Resilience changing behaviors growing forward healing resilience survivor understanding resilience Sep 10, 2024

"Our ability to grow resilient in the face of adversity

spreads to others and helps them grow resilient as well"

 

I am in my garden today getting ready for the new season of tending, weeding...

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Neuroplasticity Unleashed: How to Use Our Emotions to Heal. changing behaviors growing forward hearing triggers resilience trauma Sep 10, 2024

OK where are all the people who, when triggered go right into anger mode? You are my people, unfortunately we share the inability to keep our lids closed when a trigger cuts deep into a trauma...

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Sankofa: Finding Gifts in our Trauma changing behaviors courage growing forward healing hearing triggers resilience trauma Sep 10, 2024

Life changes fast. Life changes in an instant.

You can sit down to dinner and life as you know it changes"

Joan Didion


This week I have been overly triggered. It started when I was working outside...

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Mean Girls and Breaking Plans to See you Next Tuesday changing behaviors courage growing forward healing resilience self acceptance trauma Sep 10, 2024

"Who you were, who you are and who you will be are three different people"

 

Yesterday was cleaning closet day at Casa Anastasia with the goal of clearing out anything that was no longer of...

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The Limit Does Not Exist! changing behaviors courage hearing triggers limiting beliefs resilience trauma Sep 10, 2024

"Mother, teacher, writer, betrayer, jokester, bitch, genuine, loudmouth, boat rocker, lover, analyst, bean counter, victim, bully, daughter, niece, grand daughter, friend, enemy, confidant,...

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Stealth Mode Activated courage healing hearing triggers reconciliation resilience stealth mode trauma Sep 10, 2024

"The greatest warrior is the one who brings peace"

Cadmus Delorme


My journey creating the Whole and Capable Coaching website has lead me, yet again, down a rabbit hole. This week I was sharpening...

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Pressure Cracks, Icebergs and Healing Our Generational Traumas courage healing resilience trauma Sep 10, 2024

"Parenting in short, is a dance of the generations. Whatever affected one generation but has not fully resolved will be passed on to the next." 

Gabor Mate

Good morning from my wee office in...

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Braving the Cold Frontier: Unlearning Your Role in a Narcissistic Family. courage healing resilience scapegoat trauma Sep 10, 2024

I am currently sitting in my office overlooking the lake and sipping a calming tea. The weather is blistering cold and there are no vehicles in sight. The only sound is the crisp wind off of the...

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