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Flying Monkeys and My Journey Through a Legacy of Narcissistic abuse. changing behaviors courage growing forward healing hearing triggers scapegoat understanding resilience your healing journey Sep 10, 2024

We have entered rainy season at the lake. Today is day six of rain and swarms of fish flies creating a loud buzz in the dark skies. It feels like a scene from a horror movie when walking out to the...

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When Yoda Speaks: Overcoming Barriers to Healing changing behaviors courage growing forward healing trauma understanding resilience Sep 10, 2024

"Do or do not, there is no try."

Yoda

 

After much internal conflict I took a week off and dug myself a few garden trenches. I placed seed, fertilized lawns and sat outside just listening to...

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The Act of Growing Resilience changing behaviors growing forward healing resilience survivor understanding resilience Sep 10, 2024

"Our ability to grow resilient in the face of adversity

spreads to others and helps them grow resilient as well"

 

I am in my garden today getting ready for the new season of tending, weeding...

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WWJD Posters and other Myths in our Workplaces courage growing forward limiting beliefs reconciliation trauma trauma-informed workplaces Sep 10, 2024

"Trauma is prevalent in our world and its effects can ripple out, shaping our interactions and relationships at home and at work"

 

 We interrupt this peaceful slumber with an eye opening...

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Neuroplasticity Unleashed: How to Use Our Emotions to Heal. changing behaviors growing forward hearing triggers resilience trauma Sep 10, 2024

OK where are all the people who, when triggered go right into anger mode? You are my people, unfortunately we share the inability to keep our lids closed when a trigger cuts deep into a trauma...

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Sankofa: Finding Gifts in our Trauma changing behaviors courage growing forward healing hearing triggers resilience trauma Sep 10, 2024

Life changes fast. Life changes in an instant.

You can sit down to dinner and life as you know it changes"

Joan Didion


This week I have been overly triggered. It started when I was working outside...

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Mean Girls and Breaking Plans to See you Next Tuesday changing behaviors courage growing forward healing resilience self acceptance trauma Sep 10, 2024

"Who you were, who you are and who you will be are three different people"

 

Yesterday was cleaning closet day at Casa Anastasia with the goal of clearing out anything that was no longer of...

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The Weight of Unhealed Trauma changing behaviors courage growing forward healing hearing triggers survivor trauma Sep 10, 2024

"Trauma comes back as a Reaction not a memory"

Bessel van der Kolk

 

A childhood filled with never knowing when the temperature was going to turn to rage - 200 blocks
Raised in a home lacking...

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Dancing With the One that Brought You changing behaviors courage growing forward healing hearing triggers trauma Sep 10, 2024

"Stay with me,

Let's just breathe

Practiced on my sins, never gonna let you win, uh-huh

Under everything, just another human being, uh-huh

I don't want to hurt

There's so much in this world to make...

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Withchypoos and Wardens: Observations of a Scared Child. changing behaviors growing forward hearing triggers reconciliation survivor trauma Sep 10, 2024

"Fear is a mile wide and an inch deep"

Edgar Nye

 I grew up on the North side of Manning as the youngest of 4 girls. Our home, like many others in the 70's was dysfunctional, with lots of...

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Phoenix Rising: Moving from Victim Mindset to Survivor Mindset in Trauma Healing changing behaviors courage healing hearing triggers limiting beliefs survivor trauma Sep 10, 2024

I am fresh off of the snowshoes this morning. It is a warm day in March here on the lake and the entire hamlet is prepping for the annual ice fishing derby. Soon the ice will begin to melt away and...

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The Limit Does Not Exist! changing behaviors courage hearing triggers limiting beliefs resilience trauma Sep 10, 2024

"Mother, teacher, writer, betrayer, jokester, bitch, genuine, loudmouth, boat rocker, lover, analyst, bean counter, victim, bully, daughter, niece, grand daughter, friend, enemy, confidant,...

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